Monday, August 3, 2009

Secret of Greatness - Be a Hedgehog!

My recent hobby has been listening to audio books. I recently came across a good business book - Good to Great companies by Jim Collins. In this book, Jim Collins introduces a new concept called the hedgehog concept and mentions that the hedgehog concept is the key that differentiates between good companies and great companies. The good thing is that the same concept can also be applied to our personal lives. Once you understand this concept, you will realize that the same concept differentiates the good from the great people in our history. So are you ready to know more about this hedgehog concept?

Before explaining the hedgehog concept,

I'd like to ask you a question...

Are you GOOD at something?...

Or

Are you GREAT at something?...

What's the difference?

Well...

"GOOD IS THE ENEMY OF GREAT"

What does this mean?

Well...

What we are saying here is that...

"You don't want to be "Good" at anything?"

You want to be GREAT at something!

A lot of people who don't have success are "Good" at a lot of different things.

You don't want to be mediocre...

You want to be the best and settling to be just "good" is simply not good enough! You want to be the best, and most importantly be the best at just one thing that ignites your passion.

Today I am going to share with you the secret of how you can become great too. Surprisingly, this secret is revealed in a simple story. This is a story of the fox and the hedgehog.

How many people here know what a hedgehog is? Hedgehog is a small animal that has spines all over its body. Hedgehogs have an ability to roll into a tight ball, causing all of the spines to point outwards.

With this introduction about hedgehogs, let me get back to the story:

There is a hedgehog that is on its way. A fox looks at the hedgehog and tries to attack it with the intent of eating it. But do you know what hedgehog does. It simply rolls up into a ball, exposing a tough exterior of protective spines. As we know foxes are cunning, so the fox tries its best to devise new and clever ways to outthink its prey. But every time the fox tries to attack the hedgehog, the lowly hedgehog simply does one thing, does it well, and does it every time. When attacked, the hedgehog simply rolls up into a ball, exposing a tough exterior of protective spines. The fox eventually gives up, and goes in search of less-armored prey.

What does this simple story tells us. This simple story tells us that the fox knows a little about many things, but the hedgehog knows only one big thing very well. The fox is complex; the hedgehog simple. And the hedgehog wins.

If you look at the history, you will notice the most of the successful people are like hedgehogs. Let us take the example of one of the greatest cricketers of all times - Sachin Tendulkar. His hedgehog concept is the balance and the poise that he uses so well while batting on any kind of wicket and facing any bowler. Did you know that Sachin started his career as a fast bowler but after listening to his coaches, he decided to concentrate only on batting? Do you think he would have been so successful had he concentrated on both bowling and batting?

So what does it take to find your hedgehog concept? It requires deep introspection to understand your passions and what you can be best at. It may not be something you are currently working on. Think for a moment and try to find the answer to these questions: Are you passionate about your current job? Can you be the best at it? If the answer to any of these questions is No, you may not be able to find your hedgehog concept in your current job and may have to find alternatives to attain success and greatness. Don't worry if you are not able to find your hedgehog concept alone. You can always take the help of a mentor who has gone through that path and is in a better position to guide your way. No matter what situation you are in, you can find your hedgehog concept. Let me tell you another story to further emphasize my point.

This is the story of one 10-year-old boy who decided to study judo despite the fact that he had lost his left arm in a devastating car accident.

The boy began lessons with an old Japanese judo master. The boy was doing well, so he couldn't understand why, after three months of training, the master had taught him only one move.

"Sensei," the boy finally said, "shouldn't I be learning more moves?"

"This is the only move you know, but this is the only move you'll ever need to know," the sensei replied.

Not quite understanding, but believing in his teacher, the boy kept training.

Several months later, the sensei took the boy to his first tournament.

Surprising himself, the boy easily won his first two matches. The third match proved to be more difficult, but after some time, his opponent became impatient and charged; the boy deftly used his one move to win the match. Still amazed by his success, the boy was now in the finals.

This time, his opponent was bigger, stronger, and more experienced. For a while, the boy appeared to be overmatched. Concerned that the boy might get hurt, the referee called a time-out. He was about to stop the match when the sensei intervened.

"No," the sensei insisted, "Let him continue."

Soon after the match resumed, his opponent made a critical mistake: he dropped his guard. Instantly, the boy used his move to pin him. The boy had won the match and the tournament. He was the champion.

On the way home, the boy and sensei reviewed every move in each and every match. Then the boy summoned the courage to ask what was really on his mind.

"Sensei, how did I win the tournament with only one move?"

"You won for two reasons," the sensei answered. "First, you've almost mastered one of the most difficult throws in all of judo. Second, the only known defense for that move is for your opponent to grab your left arm."

The boy's biggest weakness had become his biggest strength.

With this, I would like to conclude that no matter what your situation is, you can find your hedgehog concept. Once you have found your hedgehog concept, your path would be clear and you would not be distracted by little things along the way. You would be truly in a position to achieve greatness at that point.

Tuesday, April 21, 2009

Educational Resources

If you are looking for some good educational tips and other useful information (like recorded lectures etc) on various subjects, here are some good educational resources:
http://www.youtube.com/edu
http://www.academicearth.org/
http://www.ted.com/
http://ocw.mit.edu/OcwWeb/web/home/home/index.htm

In addition, there are some good audio books available at the Orange County Public Library website. To access these, navigate to the website:
http://www.ocpl.org/
Now click on the link: "New! - Downloadable eAudiobooks" to download and enjoy audio books!
If you are a member of ocpl library, you can create an e-account with them free of cost by just visiting one of the ocpl libraries.

Hope this helps.

Sunday, April 5, 2009

Jealousy

Opening:
I'd like to request all of you to close your eyes and imagine that you have won lottery worth $5 Million dollars. Now, imagine what you can do with that money. Imagine you are on a sandy beach with palm trees, blue sky, different shades of blue and green water and you are relaxing in a hammock. Feel how happy you are, how serene and peaceful you are.
Now imagine that the person sitting next to you has won $10 million dollars. Imagine what he or she can do with this money. Imagine that he or see is flying in a private jet, hovering over the clouds and it seems like heaven. You may open your eyes now.
Did you feel a tinge of jealousy while thinking about the second scenario?


Body:
Madam Toastmaster, Fellow Toastmasters and Honored Guests, this is what is Jealousy.

Jealousy is mental uneasiness resulting from success of others. It's a resentful or painful desire for another's prosperity. Jealousy is an indication that we are not satisfied with what God has given us.

A synonym of jealousy is envy.

Jealousy is a natural tendency. It limits us from sharing the joy of others success. It's observed that feelings of jealousy last much longer than feelings of anger and other similar emotions.
We feel jealous primarily related to known people, such as family members, friends, co-workers and acquaintances. We are not jealous of famous people like Bill Gates having 7 BR house with 24 bathrooms or Warren Buffett building a portfolio of $50 Billion dollars.

We are jealous when
  • one of our co-worker is promoted
  • our neighbor wins a jackpot
  • an acquaintance made lot of money in stock market
  • a friend buys a big house
  • a fellow toastmaster wins a best speaker, best evaluator or best table topics speaker award

Religiously Speaking:
  • The Holy Bible advises us to be content with what we have, for God will never fail or forsake us
  • Islam warns us to be careful of envy, because envy destroys good deeds in the same manner as fire destroys wood
  • Buddhism suggests us to use Metta Bhavana or feelings of friendship in meditation to control all negative tendencies including Jealousy
Causes of Jealousy:
Lack of self-esteem, self-confidence and self-belief are some of the causes of jealousy.

Jealousy can be controlled and avoided.
I suggest the following few steps:
  • Just be aware of it
  • Don't compare yourself with others
  • Believe in "You get what you deserve and you deserve what you get"
  • Count all the blessings in our life and be content with what we have

Conclusion:
I'd request all members and guests except for the timer to close your eyes again and imagine about the happy feelings of $5 million lottery winning. Imagine the serenity and peace. Now imagine you are driving a car and stopped at a stop light and see that this homeless man is pan handling for his meal for the day. Imagine you extend few dollars to this not-so-fortunate individual and drive away. Please open your eyes now. Did you feel this how fortunate you are for having what you have.

Mahatma Gandhi's advice:
To paraphrase "Whenever you feel depressed or sad, think of a person less fortunate than you".


Venu's Quote:
Like disease is precursor to death, Jealousy is precursor to hatred and bitterness; hence Jealousy should be controlled and avoided at the first awareness of it's occurrence.

Tuesday, March 31, 2009

Sense of Humor

Situation 1:
I am in an elevator going to 8th floor. Then this guy walks in and fumbles while pressing the floor number. Instead of pressing #2 button, presses #6 and #4. After realizing the mistake this person says:
Response 1 - Oh, I am so sorry, you have to stop at all these floors now. I say, it's alright, even though I am fuming with anger inside.
Response 2 - Oh, I am so sorry, but the good side is you can go for sight seeing today. I say, it's alright with a chuckle.

Situation 2:
I am about to leave after meeting a banker and I forget my iPhone at the desk. Banker's responds:
Response 1 - Excuse me sir, you forgot your phone. I say, oh thank you very much with gratitude and internally chiding myself for the forgetfulness.
Response 2 - Oh, I am so glad that you are leaving this phone for me? I say, oh thank you very much but this time with a chuckle.


Sunday, February 22, 2009

Greed

Introduction

What comes to mind when we talk about Bernie Madoff, Rod Blagojevish and Ramalingam Raju? Most of you would agree that it is greed, which is the cause of foreclosures, bank failures, job losses and the current turmoil in the global economy. I wanted to take few minutes today to highlight what greed is and influence you to be aware of greed and avoid it if it's possible.

What is Greed?
Greed is the self-serving desire for money, wealth, power, food, or other material possessions. Greed is excessive acquiring wealth most of the times depriving others. When one acquires more than their fair share, other people do not get what they deserve. It is a strong desire in each and every one of us that is extremely difficult to overcome.

When greed is prevalent in someone, holy thoughts such as charity, kindness and humility are lacking. The greedy person values money and possessions more than God. By desiring excessive wealth men ignore Godly thoughts and hence do not fulfill their obligatory duty of serving the society which supports them. The greedy persons try to possess many things that pleases them, making them the center of their efforts, which in turn creates pride and arrongance.

Spiritually speaking..
  • According to Catholicism, Greed is considered as one of the seven deadly sins. Hence greed should be avoided.
  • In the epic Mahabharata, Bhishma teaches us that Greed is the foundation of all sin. From greed spring loss of judgment, deception, pride, arrogance, and malice. Greed alone is a great destroyer of merit and goodness.
  • The Tao Teh Ching, too, tells us that, “There is no greater calamity than indulging in greed;”.
  • The Guru Granth Sahib, the holy book of the Sikhs, questions “Where there is greed, what love can there be?”
  • Buddhists believe greed is based on incorrectly connecting material wealth with happiness. Research studies in the field of happiness confirm that beyond the provision of a basic level of material comfort, more wealth does not increase happiness.

There may be greed if you:
  • go to an "all you can eat" buffet and feel obliged to eat as much as possible to get your money's worth
  • can't say "no" when offered money to do a job.
  • are always seeking ways to make more money.

  • have fallen for several "get rich quick" schemes.

  • buy stocks thinking they will double in value in few days.

  • joined a multi-level marketing.
  • become perturbed when you purchase an item and find it cheaper elsewhere.
  • would rather have a high paying job than one which is interesting and rewarding.
  • despise paying taxes and have sympathy for those who find ways to avoid such.
How to avoid greed
First and foremost the understanding of greed and it's follies will help us be aware of greed in. Consciously making efforts to serving the community, doing charity work will also help.

Conclusion
I would like to conclude with the following aphorism:
It is easier for a camel to go through a needle's eye than for a rich man to enter into the Kingdom of God.

Sunday, November 23, 2008

Desires

Introduction
According to Buddhist teachings, desire is the cause of all suffering, pain, and sorrow. Only by extinguishing all desires can a person attain ultimate happiness, or Nirvana. However according to some modern philosophers, desire is the fundamental motivation of all human action. At the outset, these statements may seem contradictory. However, both of them are true based on our perspective and inclination.

Definition of Desire
Desire is a sense of longing for a person or object or hoping for an outcome. Desire is not an emotion. Desires can be good or bad. The more intense the desires are the more effect they have on the outcome.

Source of Desires
Desires arise from our attachments and associations. Once we realize that we have a desire, we should analyze what is the desire for, what we need to do to fulfill the desire, and what we may lose while fulfilling the desire. For example, we desire for more money by taking a position as consultant. It surely brings more money, however it will involve constant travel and reduced family time.

Classification of Desires
Desires can be classified broadly into three types. Physical desires, emotional desires and intellectual desires.
  • Physical desires are hunger, thirst etc. When we are hungry, we desire food. When we are thirsty, we desire drinks. When we smell aroma of coffee, we desire to have coffee. When we see a picture of ice cream, we desire to eat ice cream. We desire food, sometimes even if we are not truly hungry.
  • Emotional desires are our desire for love and affection, our desire for appreciation and acknowledgment. Desire for revenge, hoping for bad outcome for others are examples of bad desires.
  • Intellectual desires are our desire for success, career growth, achievement, service to the society, charity work etc.
Teachings from Bhagawad Geeta
Ancient Hindu teachings, The Bhagawad Geeta teaches us, like the smoke covers the fire, like the dust covers the mirror, like the womb covers the embryo, desires cover the truth. To truly be blissful, we have to extinguish all our desires, bad as well as good. Higher the intensity of desire, higher the effort needed in extinguishing the desire. By blowing air with little effort, the smoke can be blown away and radiant fire can be uncovered. It will take little more effort, to dust off and see the shining mirror. However, it takes a lot of hard work and patience for 9 months, for the embryo to grow into a baby.

Conclusion
Desires are seldom fulfilled. As soon as one desire is fulfilled, a new and more potent desire replaces the old one. Unfulfilled desires cause anger, dissatisfaction and sorrow. If desires cannot be avoided then let's have selfless desires, which not only serve us, they serve the society as well. Desires are always a step ahead of achievements.


Saturday, October 18, 2008

The meaning of Love

What is Love?
Love, it's a very powerful word. It brings peace and harmony to this chaotic world. With love many a people have brought peace to the world.

The word love has many meanings and manifestations. The word love can refer to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes. Due to this diversity of meanings, it is difficult to define love. As an abstract concept, love usually refers to a deep feeling of tenderly caring for another person. Love involves concern for the other person's welfare and feeling.

Philosophically, where Anger is like fire, Love is like Ice. It is cold, calm and strong and brings coolness to the surrounding. Most often when we love others, others will love back and peace will permeate in the environment.

Examples of different meanings of love:
I love my spouse (romantic love, intimacy, commitment, attachment)
I love my parents (respect, devotion)
I love my children (affection)
I love God (devotion)
I love Tennis, I love Movies, I love my car (impersonal love, attachment)
I love my job (commitment)

What is not Love?
Let's also understand what is not love.
Infatuation: A teenager falls in love with another teenager. Many kids and young adults feel crazy about Hollywood stars, Musicians, Singers etc. That is not love, but infatuation. Infatuation is the state of being completely carried away by unreasoned love; addictive love. Infatuation usually occurs at the beginning of a relationship. Usually infatuation lasts for shorter period of time. Longer lasting form of infatuation is called Limerence, which can have pathological consequences.

Passion is an emotion of feeling very strongly about a person.
Friendship between two people may exist and might be liking each others attributes, characters, but it is not love.

Manifestations of Love
Various manifestations of love are self (narcissistic) love, romantic (erotic) love, filial love and divine (agapic) love.
Love for self is the lowest form of love, and believe it or not is one of the strongest. We as humans love ourselves first. Even if we love others, the root cause would be to have reciprocation. To recount a story, King of Kosala Pasenadi and Queen Mallika were both disciples of Buddha. One day the king casually asked the queen, who does she love the most, expecting his name to be mentioned. But to his surprise, queen said that she loved herself the most. Normally, any other king would have banished the queen for saying such. But king said, strangely even I had the same realization during my mediation today that I love myself the most.

Love most often means the romantic love between people. This kind of love is necessary primarily for progeny. This kind of love lasts for short amount of time. There are many memorable and tragic stories between people. Love between these people and their sacrifice is memorable. Some such pairs are Romeo Juliet, Laila Majnu, Heer Ranjha and their love seem to be eternal. The Taj Mahal in India is one of the greatest symbol of love. Mughal emperor Shah Jahan was so much grief stricken by his third wife Mumtaj Mahal's passing away, that he immediately started to build a tomb in her memory and today people from all corners of the world visit Taj Mahal as a symbol of love.

Filial love or love for family is the next kind of love. This kind of love builds strong families, and good societies. One story from Hindu Mythological story Ramayan recounts that King Dasaratha could not bear the separation of his eldest son Rama and died with grief. Another story from Mahabharata, the blind King Dhrutarashtra was so much attached to his wicked son Duryodhan that he allowed the war between the family members and in turn was the cause for the destruction of entire Kaurava clan. It is believed that Humayun the eldest son of Mughal emperor Babur was sickly ill. Babur with love for his son, circled his bed and cried out to God to take his life and spare Humayun's life. Historians dispute this claim, however it shows the strength of love for children.

Divine love is the most important and highly regarded love. People following Judaism, Christianity and Islam belive in Abraham their patriarch. With divine love, he was about to sacrifice his own son as an offering to God. Meerabai, one of the famous devotees of Lord Krishna, once drank poison as proof of her devotion to God. Divine love is infinite, unconditional and pure. When we are able to display this love even in traces, will serve a great deal to the society. Compassion, forgiveness are some of the forms of this divine love.

Conclusion:
One of the most important longing for all human beings is to love others and be loved by others.
For some love for self is the strongest, for some love for family is the strongest and for some love for God is the strongest.
Selfless and unconditional love is the purest love of all.

Persian Poem
Even after all this time
The sun never says to the earth "you owe me".
Look what happens with a Love like that!
- It lights the whole Sky. (Hafiz)